|Prince Charming and Princess at her 7th birthday "party"|
*Picture Princess and Charming, sitting an appropriately respectful distance apart on a couch, not looking each other directly in the eyes.*
Princess: When we met, HE (pointing very aggressively toward Charming) was the MOST ANNOYING BOY IN FIRST GRADE! I MEAN IT! (Yes, she is shouting these words.)
Charming: Well (very exasperated tone), SHE (also pointing aggressively) was the most annoying KID in first grade!
P: *Loud, dramatic gasp* He was angry and shouting EVERY DAY!
C: SO?! SHE cried every single day! Definitely MORE annoying.
Interviewer, trying desperately to get them back on track: So when did you decide you were "perfect" for each other?
P: One day, a teacher asked me what was wrong, why was I mad, and I said I don't know, and I don't think she believed me. Charming asked me later "what's wrong" and I said I don't know and he believed me. He said he didn't know why he got mad but he did anyway. He understands. I love him. (Actual quote.)
C: Princess turned nice. One day, she just seemed like a good friend. She likes some of the things I do, like winning, and racing. And she doesn't mind being loud sometimes. And she cheers for me, so there's that. We're getting married. (He says this very matter-of-factly, like it is already a done deal.)
P: We ARE getting married! I'm going to live in a castle. With Charming! And a KITTY!!!!!
C: Yeah, I'm not going to be a prince, like Princess wants, but I am going to be a winning race car driver, so I can still buy her a castle with the fortune I make racing. I think that will be enough. (This is an actual quote, by the way. Too adorable!)
P: I'm getting a castle! And Charming is going to WIN! (Imagine Princess with balled up fists next to a perfectly "O" shaped mouth, trembling all over with excitement, and making her machine gun sound.)
|The wedding dress, designed|
by P & B and modelled by
I have watched Princess and Charming develop their friendship over the last 18 months, and they genuinely care for one another. They get excited for one another's successes. They are concerned for one another's well-being. They are supportive of one another's goals. They listen to each other go on and on about their
Now, this loving friendship is not without its ups and downs. Princess and Charming really do get upset with one another on occasion, which is not surprising considering how inflexible they can both be. Their littles tiffs are very much like marital spats, which only adds to the humor and believability of their "marriage talk". After all their little highs and lows, though, they always end up being the closest of friends. And even though they talk of love and marriage, they very seldom touch or make eye contact (except for that time there was a stolen kiss in the cafeteria), keeping everything very age-appropriate.
As any parent of a child on the spectrum knows, this friendship is amazing-- almost inconceivable! "Almost" only because I witness the realness of their relationship every day. Their relationship is so astounding to me, considering how little interest Princess shows in developing friendships in general and especially considering how little patience she has for "loudness" and boys. I am so happy my daughter has found someone to connect with in such a personal way. I feel like Charming is a gift to Princess. With him, she can be herself and be understood by a peer that really cares that she is happy. I feel such gratitude for this little boy. I am so incredibly blessed that Princess has met this little person that fills such a big role-- the role of friend.
As for the talk of marriage.... hmmm. Would I be surprised if they tied the knot one day? I don't know. If Princess and Charming know each other when Charming is 23 (the age he will graduate from college, which is when he plans to wed), I wouldn't be surprised. They are two of the most single-minded children I have ever met. I suppose it will have a lot to do with that castle he keeps promising...
In the meantime, I will just enjoy vicariously the happiness that Princess gets out of knowing her Prince Charming and giggle every time he introduces me as his "future mother-in-law".
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